*I wrote this blog in 2015 and I cant believe I am living in another community that has been rocked by the death of a young woman. Toyah Cordingley was walking her dog on the beach who just like Stephanie was going about her day doing something that shouldn't warrant any fear or danger, I have decided to republish this because today more than ever these words seem to matter still so much even though the names of the politicians have changed, the message and need is still the same we need to start a public conversation and create a change in attitude so that woman can go about their lives and day and feel safe.
This blog is a space I have reserved for my fickle musings: celebrity chats, smart ass comments and a sobering reminder I watch way too much reality television but just for today I am going with a change of pace, because perspective has hit very close to my home in Griffith, NSW 57 KM’s away to be exact.
I remember early on Wednesday morning news of Stephanie Scott’s disappearance started to pepper my news feed.
At first speculation was rife, a bit of pre wedding jitters was suggested and I secretly hoped that was the case, then we had a chat on our radio show with Stephanie’s sister.
The conviction in her voice that she was so excited for the big day was hard to question.
So then my mind turned to foul play, then I reminded myself its little old Leeton on a quiet Sunday, not a dark alley in Sydney in the middle of the night.
I was a bit confused with it all. My confusion turned to shock as news came though of her murder.
This isn’t right, not Leeton, not a bride to be, NOT FAIR.
As I read the timeline of events leading up to this horrific event I shuddered,
It was a bit of a sliding doors moment.
Earlier that day she was walking around Griffith probably Banna Ave looking for cufflinks for her hubby to be Aaron and a bikini for her honeymoon in Tahiti.
A Street I remember being on that day getting coffee with a friend at the local bakery Bertoldos.
Tragically our days ended up VERY differently.
Geographically it’s hard to not think about this event as news choppers go over my house and as a staff member from work phones in saying he is staying home to console his daughters who were her students.
But you don’t have to be in a certain postcode to feel this event I think this particularly hits close to home to every woman, who has made the decision to go somewhere alone where you think is a safe space.
Stephanie’s murder is especially tragic due to her impending wedding, but violence against women doesn’t stop because you have places to be, a loving partner to get home to and a community who love you.
Violence against women in Australia is still one of the leading causes of death for Australian women so much like any epidemic we need more education, more research and preventative measures to stop this and protect our women.
Just earlier last month Opposition leader Bill Shorten urged our Prime Minster Tony Abbott to hold a national summit to tackle this pressing issue.
“One in three Australian women have experienced physical violence since the age of 15,” Mr Shorten said in a statement. He urged Prime Minster Tony Abbott to put Violence against women at centre of national political debate in order to change these chilling statistics.
While these events could never have been foreseen with the cleaning company performing a background check on the perpetrator it still highlights the need for something to be changed.
We need to intercept where we can like in the case of Jill Meagher who was murdered by repeat offender Adrian Ernest Bayley we need a harder stance, we need a stronger fight and we need a safer landscape for our women.
Mr Abbott (Scott Morrison) balls in your court.